Everyone gets
stressed out from time to time. Just a couple weeks ago, I had the most
stressful week I’ve had in 18 months; and that includes my 45 days in jail. So
it got me thinking of the different methods to manage stress.
We all cope
with stress differently. I, like a lot of people, tend to become angry and
irritable, an fly off the handle. I had actually been doing really well about
not flying off the handle, thanks to Prozac. But my doc had switched me to another
anti-depressant because I gained so much weight on the other. Hopefully my
moods will even out more; especially now that I am losing weight.
Some people
lose their appetite; some people turn to comfort foods (me); some people turn to
alcohol or drugs. There are so many things people do that don’t really work too
well for the long run.
So I started
digging around in my “toolbox” for some healthy alternatives for stress
management. These are some things that have been working for me (aside from
anti-depressants)
1. Pray. When I am really stressed and
overwhelmed, I turn to God for comfort. I pray a lot for strength to get
through the difficult times. I meditate on God’s Promises. And most
importantly, I believe that He hears
an answers my prayers.
2. Meditate. For
me, prayer and meditation go hand in hand. Meditation and breathing exercises
are the best for stressful situations. A couple of months ago, I had court and
I as so nervous. The whole time I as waiting to be called, I focused on my
breathing and nothing else. It really helped me relax. If you are unsure how to
meditate, click here for some tips
3. Go for a walk. Exercise is great for stress. I enjoy
walking, but not in 107 degree weather. During unpleasant weather, use a
treadmill if you have one or use an exercise DVD. Anything, just exercise. Being
out in nature is very always lifts my spirits. Yoga is by far the best for
stress relief.
4. Get organized. I don’t know about you, but when my
house is a mess, I feel like everything is in chaos. I am not a neat freak at
all. I am actually a bit of a clutter bug. But when things start piling up, I
get really annoyed. Big time. So just clearing the table, putting dishes away,
tidying up really helps put my mind at ease
5. Take a bubble bath. Set aside time just for yourself. It doesn’t
have to be a bath; you could read for an hour write, paint your toenails, take
a nap. Just set aside to focus on yourself and nobody else. Don’t think about
anything going on in life; it’s just you.
6. Play some calming music. When I’m stressed or angry, I am
drawn to loud, angry music. They are preaching what I’m feeling. But all that
does is get me all fired up all over again. Instead, try something uplifting
and you’ll notice a difference. I know I do. And if you are sad or depressed,
don’t listen to Celine Dion’s “My Heart Will Go On”, or Whitney Houston’s “I
Will Always Love You.” I don’t even have to be depressed to start balling when
I hear those songs.
7. Ask for help. If you’re overwhelmed about housework
and you have kids running around, ask someone to help you. Or if you are
overloaded at work, just admit you could use a hand. I know it’s hard to admit
and you don’t want to look bad. But you can’t do everything on your own. Everyone needs help sometimes.
8. Talk to someone you trust. It could be your spouse if they are
the type of person who will just listen and not try to “fix” you; most men want
to fix whatever the problem is. Or if
they’re someone who is easily offended or will become stressed themselves, they
probably aren’t the right person to confide in. A pastor or minister you know
and trust would be a good person to talk to. They can offer you spiritual guidance.
If you are chronically stressed, I would
suggest finding a therapist. They can offer un-biased opinions and help you
work through your stress and problems. Seeing a therapist/counselor doesn’t
mean there is something “wrong” with you. You will be amazed at the progress
you will make in your life with someone who will offer honest, un-biased
feedback.
I hope these
ideas are useful. When you don’t deal with your stress issues, it is just going
to build up and it will come out in an explosive way. You have to take care of
yourself before you can be any good to your family or job or whatever. Best
wishes!
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